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As we celebrate Canada Day this July 1st, I find myself reflecting not only on the beauty of this country, but also on the relationships that sustain us. Canada is known for its kindness, and I believe that same spirit can be brought into our homes and our partnerships - through empathy, understanding, and conscious love.
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We hope this newsletter finds you enjoying these beautiful summer days. For me, it’s taken a while to feel like summer is truly here - maybe because this past winter tested every ounce of my Canadian endurance! (I admit, I gave up around March!) But with the longer, lighter days, I can feel my energy returning.
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In the spirit of growth and light, I’d love to share this week’s *Mindful Love Move* - one that’s especially relevant for those moments when conflict seems to come out of nowhere.
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💡 Mindful Love Move #2: Recognize the Echoes of Childhood
Have you ever had a reaction in your relationship that felt… bigger than the moment?
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Maybe your partner was late, or distracted, or forgot something small - but inside, it felt enormous.
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That’s not random. That’s a **trigger** - a present-day moment that echoes a wound from long ago.
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Imago teaches us that our conflicts are rarely about what’s happening in the moment.
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Instead, they’re often about **unmet needs and unresolved pain** from our earliest relationships. And because our partner matters so much to us, their actions touch those deep places.
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Instead of asking:
> “Why are they doing this to me?”
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Try asking:
> “What old story is this moment activating?”
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>“What am I needing in this moment?”
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✨ Personal Note
In my own relationship, I’ve noticed that when Scott withdraws, I can feel a pang of loneliness that goes far beyond the present. When I slow down and tune in, I realize it’s tied to childhood moments when I felt left behind or unseen. When I share that vulnerably - instead of reacting from it - it opens the door to dialogue and healing.
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🧠 Reflect
- What conflict keeps showing up in your relationship?
- Could it be linked to something much older than your partner?
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🧪 Try This
The next time you feel triggered:
1. Pause. Breathe.
2. Ask yourself: *What does this remind me of?*
3. Share with your partner using the Imago Dialogue format:
> “When that happened, I felt …and it reminded me of….”
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This is how healing begins.
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📌 Coming Next
In the next issue, we’ll explore **how to repair after a rupture** - and how those moments of reconnection can be the most transformative of all.
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Wishing you a joyful Canada Day, filled with connection, reflection, and maybe even a few fireworks of the heart. May we continue building a country - and relationships - rooted in compassion and care.
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With warmth and a full heart,
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We’re excited to share that there’s been a lot of interest in our individual workshop: Keeping the Love You Find - a powerful opportunity for personal growth and relational insight.
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We are tentatively planning the next offering for mid-September.
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If you’re interested in participating - either individually or as a couple - please let Yvonne know as soon as possible so we can keep you informed as plans come together.
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This workshop is ideal for individuals who want to understand their relational patterns, heal from past relationships, and prepare for deeper, more conscious love - whether you're currently partnered or not.
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